The other night I was in the hot tub with my husband, Scott, telling him all about the things I was trying to do. I was busy trying to make my business super interesting and helpful, trying to give our son a kick-butt home-school education, trying to save a respectable emergency fund, and trying to concoct a formula that will help me to always choose spinach over cheesecake.
As my mother would say, yes, I was very trying.
Bubbling there beneath the stars, I fully expected Scott to sympathize with all my efforts. Instead he said, “Maybe you should stop trying so much.”
Who needs this guy, anyway?
He was right, of course. So the next morning, I thought, what the hey. Today, instead of trying, I’ll allow.
Here’s what happened. I noticed I was coming down with the cold I had been (trying) to help my kids shake off. Instead of (trying) to slog through it, I rescheduled the afternoon’s appointments and spent the day on the couch. After a while I got out some jewelry making stuff and made some necklaces that I had been planning to finish. I relaxed. I thought some thoughts. I got over my cold. I even got some money given to me that I wasn’t expecting, which I take as proof that the universe supports allowing.
How about you? Are you trying?
If you’re trying to make your finances work, or trying to lose fifteen pounds, or trying to solve problems for which there is no immediate answer, then maybe it’s time to stop trying.
I’d like to report that allowing feels pretty good. It’s the difference between rowing a river or floating it. You still get there, but there’s much more opportunity to enjoy the view.
And of course, if you’d like to allow me to help you work through those places where you’re stuck, give me a call. I’m relaxed and ready.
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